August 6, 2025
Why “Toxic Masculinity” is a Lie from the Pit of Hell
Learn why the concept of toxic masculinity is a cultural deception designed to weaken men, dismantle families, and destroy Christian values.
By Pastor Danny Lee
A Weaponized Phrase
In the last decade, the term “toxic masculinity” has exploded in our culture. It’s a phrase often wielded as a hammer, not to address abuse or immorality, but to crush the very God-given qualities that make men… men.
Here’s the truth: masculinity, in its purest, God-designed form, is anything but toxic. In fact, it’s essential to the flourishing of families, churches, and nations. The enemy knows that if you take down the men, you can take down the home, the church, and the nation.
This is not simply a social conversation — it’s a spiritual battle. As we explored in Biblical Manhood in a Culture of Confusion, men have been given a holy mandate to protect, provide, and lead. The attack on masculinity is an attack on God’s order.
The Spiritual Agenda Behind the Phrase
Satan has always sought to reverse, twist, or destroy God’s design. Just as the serpent questioned Eve in Genesis 3, our culture now questions whether biblical masculinity is good at all. By redefining manhood as dangerous, society paves the way for passivity, weakness, and ultimately — fatherlessness.
Statistics confirm what Scripture already reveals:
Fatherless homes are the #1 factor in youth crime, drug use, and school dropouts.
Communities without strong male leadership collapse morally and economically.
Nations without courageous men lose their freedom.
In 1 Corinthians 16:13, Paul gives a direct command:
“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.”
Notice — Paul doesn’t apologize for telling men to act like men. He doesn’t tell them to be less assertive, less protective, or less bold. He commands them to be vigilant, grounded, masculine, and strong.
Masculinity Modeled in Scripture
If we want to know what healthy masculinity looks like, we look to the Word of God:
Jesus: Compassionate toward the broken (John 8:11) but fearless in confronting corruption (John 2:15).
David: A poet who could write about his soul (Psalm 23) yet also lead armies into battle (1 Samuel 17).
Moses: A shepherd who met with God face-to-face (Exodus 33:11) and yet boldly stood before Pharaoh (Exodus 5:1).
God’s design for men blends courage and compassion, strength and tenderness. None of these traits are toxic when aligned with Christ.
What’s Really Toxic
The real toxicity is not masculinity — it’s sin.
When men abandon God, they can become abusive, self-centered, and destructive. But the solution is not to dismantle masculinity; it’s to redeem it through Christ.
The world says: Masculinity is dangerous.
God says: Masculinity without Me is dangerous.
What’s truly toxic?
Passivity — men who avoid responsibility.
Faithlessness — men who abandon their spiritual calling.
Compromise — men who trade God’s truth for cultural acceptance.
As I mention in Men of God, America Needs Your Strength, the hour is too urgent for passive men. We need warriors filled with the Spirit.
Why the Attack Feels So Fierce Right Now
We’re living in a moment where societal structures are being redefined at rapid speed. Gender roles, marriage, and even truth itself are up for debate. The enemy is strategic — if you can confuse a man about who he is, you can keep him from fulfilling what God made him to do.
This is why it’s critical that men are plugged into healthy, biblical communities where their God-given roles are celebrated and sharpened. If you’re unsure where to start, read our post: 5 Things to Look for in a Church (And How Church of the Heartland Measures Up).
How to Respond as Men of God
If we’re going to push back against the “toxic masculinity” lie, we must:
Own Our Role — Stop apologizing for being men.
Live Above Reproach — Don’t give the enemy any foothold through sin.
Protect the Vulnerable — This is not optional; it’s our duty.
Disciple the Next Generation — Train boys into godly men (see Raising Sons Who Will Not Bow to the Culture).
Remember, Proverbs 27:17 says:
“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”
If you’re not surrounding yourself with godly men who will call you higher, you’re an easy target for compromise.
Conclusion: Reject the Lie, Redeem the Truth
Men, it’s time to call the phrase “toxic masculinity” what it is — a lie from the pit of hell. Don’t let culture define you. Let the Creator define you.
Biblical masculinity is a blessing to the home, the church, and the nation. When surrendered to Christ, male strength is a weapon against darkness, a shield for the weak, and a foundation for revival.
For the role strong men play in rebuilding nations, read The Christian Father’s Role in Rebuilding a Nation.
A Weaponized Phrase
In the last decade, the term “toxic masculinity” has exploded in our culture. It’s a phrase often wielded as a hammer, not to address abuse or immorality, but to crush the very God-given qualities that make men… men.
Here’s the truth: masculinity, in its purest, God-designed form, is anything but toxic. In fact, it’s essential to the flourishing of families, churches, and nations. The enemy knows that if you take down the men, you can take down the home, the church, and the nation.
This is not simply a social conversation — it’s a spiritual battle. As we explored in Biblical Manhood in a Culture of Confusion, men have been given a holy mandate to protect, provide, and lead. The attack on masculinity is an attack on God’s order.
The Spiritual Agenda Behind the Phrase
Satan has always sought to reverse, twist, or destroy God’s design. Just as the serpent questioned Eve in Genesis 3, our culture now questions whether biblical masculinity is good at all. By redefining manhood as dangerous, society paves the way for passivity, weakness, and ultimately — fatherlessness.
Statistics confirm what Scripture already reveals:
Fatherless homes are the #1 factor in youth crime, drug use, and school dropouts.
Communities without strong male leadership collapse morally and economically.
Nations without courageous men lose their freedom.
In 1 Corinthians 16:13, Paul gives a direct command:
“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.”
Notice — Paul doesn’t apologize for telling men to act like men. He doesn’t tell them to be less assertive, less protective, or less bold. He commands them to be vigilant, grounded, masculine, and strong.
Masculinity Modeled in Scripture
If we want to know what healthy masculinity looks like, we look to the Word of God:
Jesus: Compassionate toward the broken (John 8:11) but fearless in confronting corruption (John 2:15).
David: A poet who could write about his soul (Psalm 23) yet also lead armies into battle (1 Samuel 17).
Moses: A shepherd who met with God face-to-face (Exodus 33:11) and yet boldly stood before Pharaoh (Exodus 5:1).
God’s design for men blends courage and compassion, strength and tenderness. None of these traits are toxic when aligned with Christ.
What’s Really Toxic
The real toxicity is not masculinity — it’s sin.
When men abandon God, they can become abusive, self-centered, and destructive. But the solution is not to dismantle masculinity; it’s to redeem it through Christ.
The world says: Masculinity is dangerous.
God says: Masculinity without Me is dangerous.
What’s truly toxic?
Passivity — men who avoid responsibility.
Faithlessness — men who abandon their spiritual calling.
Compromise — men who trade God’s truth for cultural acceptance.
As I mention in Men of God, America Needs Your Strength, the hour is too urgent for passive men. We need warriors filled with the Spirit.
Why the Attack Feels So Fierce Right Now
We’re living in a moment where societal structures are being redefined at rapid speed. Gender roles, marriage, and even truth itself are up for debate. The enemy is strategic — if you can confuse a man about who he is, you can keep him from fulfilling what God made him to do.
This is why it’s critical that men are plugged into healthy, biblical communities where their God-given roles are celebrated and sharpened. If you’re unsure where to start, read our post: 5 Things to Look for in a Church (And How Church of the Heartland Measures Up).
How to Respond as Men of God
If we’re going to push back against the “toxic masculinity” lie, we must:
Own Our Role — Stop apologizing for being men.
Live Above Reproach — Don’t give the enemy any foothold through sin.
Protect the Vulnerable — This is not optional; it’s our duty.
Disciple the Next Generation — Train boys into godly men (see Raising Sons Who Will Not Bow to the Culture).
Remember, Proverbs 27:17 says:
“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”
If you’re not surrounding yourself with godly men who will call you higher, you’re an easy target for compromise.
Conclusion: Reject the Lie, Redeem the Truth
Men, it’s time to call the phrase “toxic masculinity” what it is — a lie from the pit of hell. Don’t let culture define you. Let the Creator define you.
Biblical masculinity is a blessing to the home, the church, and the nation. When surrendered to Christ, male strength is a weapon against darkness, a shield for the weak, and a foundation for revival.
For the role strong men play in rebuilding nations, read The Christian Father’s Role in Rebuilding a Nation.
